it’s the genes, dude

February 20, 2012 at 6:00 am 9 comments


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when a chinese friend complained about her brothers not helping around the house, i could relate. i knew what she meant. i never learned to do household chores when i was growing up in the philippines. it was only when i left home that i learned to do the laundry, take the garbage out, vacuum the floor, wash the dishes, and try a little cooking. it’s true i’d survived on instant ramen for years, but i digress.

i heard from family members that my great grandfather, who died before i was born, was very traditional. while he sent his sons to the university, he didn’t extend the same privilege to his daughters. he believed that their purpose in life was to take care of the home. if they learned how to read and write, that was enough formal education for them. he was a good man. i don’t think he intended to demean his daughters. it was just, in his time, this belief was universal. to his credit, he wanted to leave all his properties to his daughters. he changed his mind only when his lawyer (hint: male) advised him it wouldn’t be fair to the boys.

on the surface, it may appear that the times have changed. in the philippines, two women had become president, although one of them was elected under dubious circumstances and currently being charged with electoral sabotage and plunder. still, male privilege persists. while more and more women are going to college and having successful careers, the bulk of housekeeping remains their responsibilities. for instance, after arriving home from work, they are still expected to cook. would you believe this is true even if they are the breadwinners of the family?

i think relegating domestic duties to women is not fair. like love, household chores should be shared with each member of the family. if only women would give nice guys a chance, they won’t be stressed out at home. sad to say, they almost always fall for macho men who can’t be domesticated and treat them bad. it’s like women are turned off easily by a guy who shows his feminine side.

i find this very perplexing. why don’t the fairer sex find attractive someone who can cook, keep the house squeaky clean, and replace the toilet paper in the dispenser when it runs out? do they find him less romantic? would they rather see him spend his time working out in the gym instead?

in the final analysis, i’m afraid, it all comes down to genetics. since the beginning of time, women crave for security. instinctively, they go for strong male types who can protect and provide. it’s not for selfish reasons. it’s to preserve the human species from extinction.

i don’t know about you, but i’m not going to mess with nature anymore. forget about being a good cook. i’m heading to the gym and tone my pectoral muscles.

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9 Comments Add your own

  • 1. AC  |  February 20, 2012 at 7:23 am

    “i never learned to do household chores when i was growing up in the philippines. it was only when i left home that i learned to do the laundry, take the garbage out, vacuum the floor, wash the dishes, and try a little cooking.” — ditto. except for cooking πŸ™‚

    “they almost always fall for macho men who can’t be domesticated and treat them bad. it’s like women are turned off easily by a guy who shows his feminine side.” — aray, guilty ako dito. πŸ˜› i posted about this just recently. anyway, ibang klaseng “femininity” naman yon.

    personally speaking, i still prefer those who can wash the dishes, do the laundry, clean the house.. at higit sa lahat, yung marunong magluto. plus 100 pogi points yun for me. and i don’t think doing these determines one’s masculinity. sabi mo nga diba, like love, household chores should be shared.

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    • 2. plaridel  |  February 20, 2012 at 2:33 pm

      ac:

      bless your heart. you bring hope to folks who don’t fit the profile of the model that usually adorns the cover of romance novels. you know, the shirtless hunk flaunting his oversized muscles as he romances a well-endowed woman wearing an undersized dress. πŸ™‚

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      • 3. AC  |  February 21, 2012 at 1:15 am

        hahahaahahhaaaa… natawa ko dito. naalala ko si fabio. hahahahahhahahahahhahaahahahhahahah!

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        • 4. plaridel  |  February 23, 2012 at 10:57 am

          ac:

          i haven’t heard of him lately. he must have retired. πŸ™‚

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  • 5. Ashley  |  February 22, 2012 at 5:09 pm

    Real men exudes confidence. That’s the difference.

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    • 6. plaridel  |  February 23, 2012 at 10:58 am

      ashley:

      true, indeed.

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  • 7. Abby  |  February 24, 2012 at 5:26 pm

    Women fantasize about macho men, but that is all. At the end of the day, we are looking for a family-oriented guy who will be in for the long haul.

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    • 8. plaridel  |  February 25, 2012 at 11:51 am

      abby:

      hope springs eternal for the less endowed. πŸ™‚

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